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Sylvia G's avatar

Excellent piece!!! This is the phase of my life journey where I reside in now, too. There are so many “a ha!” Moments that have been revealed, and it all circles back to “do I love myself? Like, truly and authenticity, do I love myself in a way that I want to be loved?”

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Jade LaShaye's avatar

Thank you! It's incredible how those “a ha!” moments can lead us to deeper self-reflection. The journey of truly loving ourselves is so important.

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Ronisha Levy's avatar

This is so good. I was totally down this same path. And I have pivoted and I am loving on me period. No questions asked

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Jade LaShaye's avatar

I love this! 🫶🏾

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Tt.🌹's avatar

Oh this during a season of understanding intention and celibacy for self and not for anyone else. Yeah — this hits ! 🥹

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Jade LaShaye's avatar

♥️🥹

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brianna's avatar

Love love this! I relate deeply and especially admire how you don’t regret your past nor beat yourself up for past decisions. Thats a huge challenge for me, so very reassuring to see you on the other side of that. Thank you for sharing such an intimate piece❤️

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Jade LaShaye's avatar

I’m glad to hear it resonates with you! Letting go of past regrets can be tough, but it really helps to focus on the lessons learned.

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Jacquie Verbal's avatar

Same! I find myself beating myself up but this was very delicate and inspiring

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Shannon D. Smith, CPTD's avatar

Sooo good! I can relate to this on so many levels.

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Jade LaShaye's avatar

Girl, we’ve all been there! I’m really glad this resonates with you.

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Jacquie Verbal's avatar

Same!

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Leah Watkins's avatar

Loved this! ❤️

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Jade LaShaye's avatar

Thank you! It’s really affirming to know that people connect with things I share.

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Te'Leisha J.'s avatar

Girl! You just helped healed the broken teenager who was sexually manipulated and started using sex as a coping mechanism. I recall stating “ I started using it as a weapon,” just two years ago when I was explaining my behavior to the guy I thought was my husband!

I’m grateful for the experiences as well! I can now stand firm on my boundaries and truly wait until God sends me my husband! Thank you for sharing! Thank you for shedding light on such a sensitive situation! I love you for this! 💕😊

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Jade LaShaye's avatar

I’m so glad my words resonated with you and helped in some way. Keep loving yourself, keep healing, and keep waiting for what’s meant for you. You’ve got this. Much love to you, Beautiful ♥️

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Christina's avatar

Amazing piece and resonated all too well. 🤎

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Jade LaShaye's avatar

I'm really glad it resonated with you. I appreciate you taking the time to read and connect. I’m so grateful ♥️

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Zipporah Banyay's avatar

Love 💕 this! This could’ve been my identical story. Your younger self was definitely not alone maybe one day you’ll get to tell your daughter or your niece how valuable she is and teach her what intimacy really is.

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Jade LaShaye's avatar

It’s wild how much of our stories can overlap but also powerful to know we’re not alone in these experiences. It’s a cycle of healing and I’m grateful we’re all a part of it. Thank you for your love and support ♥️

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Brandi's avatar

Whewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww

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Brandi's avatar

This hit a little too close to home 😭

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Jade LaShaye's avatar

I’m so glad it connected. I know it can be heavy. We got this ♥️

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Jacquie Verbal's avatar

Jade! Your pen my friend your pen! 🖊️

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Jade LaShaye's avatar

Coming from you, a truly amazing writer and creative, it means everything to me 🤎

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Jade LaShaye's avatar

It’s a tough cycle. But real love starts with us first. Thank you for feeling that with me ♥️

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